Building Resilient Children in a Chaotic World
The world is in a chaotic and unstable place right now. I recognize it is never at peace, but it does seem we are at an inflection point in several areas. As adults, we grow to cope and learn how to navigate the world we know, but some lives are fraught with more stress, disadvantages and challenges than others. Hence, as we approach Thanksgiving, we should be all the more mindful of our blessings and all that is good in the world.
There was a study from 1995-1997 by CDC - Kaiser Permanente labeled the ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experience) study. It focused on children who grew up in especially challenging situations and then followed how they adapted and were impacted later in life. There were 10 adverse childhood events (ex. experiencing abuse in the home, family member attempting suicide, etc…) which were identified as markedly impacting the child. The most interesting and inspiring learning that came from the study was that as long as a child had one stable, secure adult in their life they could still thrive and essentially cope, adapt, and move past the hardship.
Many of our readers can personally relate to such adverse childhood experiences, since 64% of adults have experienced such before the age of 18. Firstly, we want to shelter our children from such adverse events but secondly, we want to ensure our children have stable, secure, and encouraging adults in their lives.
On a similar note, I heard someone say early on when I was a young father, “Be sure your sons have other male role models to look up to, as they need perspective from others who will feed into them as well.” Our children need many adult role models and sometimes we must step outside of our own family units to help others in need.
I want to challenge each of you to be that figure for a child in our community who may need additional encouragement, guidance and support from an adult – you never know what kind of an incredible impact you could have on their life!
Happy Thanksgiving!
